Book Review: Soulprint by Mark Batterson

What do you want to be when you grow up? What is my destiny? What am I supposed to do?

These are questions we are asked and that we ask ourselves our entire lives. As Christians, we begin to ask, "What is God's Will for me?"

Mark Batterson takes on these seemingly enigmatic questions in his book, Soulprint.

Following the blueprint of the life of King David, Batterson leads a treasure hunt. He encourages the reader to dig deeply into the past to discover moments and memories that defined his or her life and to follow the clues in those memories and in the Bible to discover God's Will for what is to come.

Almost every page is filled with sentences "that'll preach," as we say in Christian circles (i.e., "The only thing between you and your destiny is awkwardness. Are you ready to embrace it?"), but allowing those seemingly shallow phrases to sink in and meditating on what makes them "cliche" allows the reader to begin the very search that is the point of the book.

Don't let the size -- or seeming lack thereof -- fool you into thinking it's an "easy" read. It is easy TO read but take it slowly and allow the gems of truth you find along the way to really sink in. You'll be better off having done so and you'll want to recommend this little treasure of a book to many folks you know, believers and unbelievers alike.

This is not the first book I've read that uses David as an example for the Christian life, but, as only God can, each one has built on the other and Soulprint is no exception. The best recommendation any "Christian" book can receive in my mind is that it points back to and plants a craving for Scripture. This book does that. It's a great book for a "retreat weekend" or any time you can set aside for introspection -- because you'll want to set aside that time when you start reading this book, whether you've planned to or not.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

If God is Good by Randy Alcorn

I recently signed up with Blogging for Books through Multnomah Publishing so I could try my hand at reviewing. I am a voracious reader -- or was before I had children -- and was excited at the idea of paying for a book by simply reviewing it. Yes, I was sent the book free of charge in exchange for a review in a timely manner.

As my maiden voyage, I chose If God is Good: Faith in the Midst of Suffering and Evil by Randy Alcorn (Multnomah, 2009).

Having suffered a bit and walked with friends and loved ones through their suffering, I've wondered like everyone where God is in the midst of it. I've learned from those experiences that He is... in the MIDST of it. However, I've never been able to explain how I know that or felt ready to give an answer to anyone who might question me on it.

If God is Good gives solid reasoning to what I have learned from experience.

By walking the reader first through a discussion of the origins of evil and suffering and then through arguments against God's very existence on to how and why God uses suffering, we reach Mr. Alcorn's conclusion with him, having learned a lot of terminology and theology along the way.

And the conclusion? God IS good because God is God. We are not. The real question is why a fallen human race expects to live without suffering. We really don't deserve the wonderful things God gives us every day; beautiful sunrises, laughter, breath... but He gives it. Suffering and evil are not from God but they certainly put His love in sharp relief for us... and that is ultimately why He allows it.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

The More Things Change

Mary has come home from Florida. She is living with us (Tim, Noah, me, our two dogs (Woodie and Dash), my cat (Beau) and the two kitties she brought home with her (Elphaba and Nessa Rose)), working at the Crocs kiosk at the mall and preparing to begin classes at UK in January.

Last night Sara came home from Western Kentucky University for Thanksgiving. All five us spent the first half hour laughing and enjoying each other. How wonderful it is when we are all together!

Life has changed so much.... God has seen to that, but it's a comfort to know that our family dynamic of unpretentious, authentic love has not changed.

Today I am thankful for my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ; my wonderful partner in life, Tim; my beautiful, intelligent daughters, Mary and Sara; and my handsome and talented son, Noah. No matter what, the love we have never changes.

Hmmm

What to say. Eight months have now passed since my last entry. Not much has changed but everything has.

We are now members of Center Point Church. It's an amazing experience to be in the midst of a group of people genuinely seeking Christ and to help others become closer to Him.

Mary and Justin came home for Thanksgiving. They live together now and, while I'm not thrilled with that, I do like him (as do the rest of the members of our family) and feel he's a good fit for Mary. She is now an Assistant Manager at Pet Supermarket in North Ft. Myers and I'm proud of the hard work she is putting in. She's a bit lost. Trying to figure things out -- something we all go through sooner or later and I'm trying not to interfere.

I love so much more than I ever have now. I find I am forgiving more. I am more willing to grow. I pray for even more patience and maturity. It makes me sad that it took 44 years to get to this point but I hope it's never too late.

I'm so grateful for my job at the Ronald McDonald House. So happy and proud to be able to say I work there and that I make a small difference in someone's life. I like the people I work with , some I even love very much.

Today, more than any other time in my life I see that God IS good all the time.

That's it. Nothing profound. I'm just glad and grateful today and wanted to tell someone. K

I am not MIA. . .

So, it's been quite a while since I wrote my last triumphant entry hailing the election of our nation's first African American President (I never know, should that be hyphenated?).

Since then, I've been laid off from my job at UDS, unemployed for a grand total of 2 and one half weeks and been hired for two more jobs! A lot can happen in four months.

I won't go into all the details. Suffice it to say, I am now the Volunteer Services and Development Coordinator for the Ronald McDonald House Charities of the Bluegrass. It's the best job I've ever had and I'm so THRILLED to be doing it. Having said that, I'm a bit daunted. It's a huge job and I haven't even chipped away the tip of the iceberg.

On the family front, Mary decided that she needed to get off of Asbury campus in order to move on after her break ups with first Ethan and then Chris . . . so she went as far as she could go and still be on the continent. She is living with my parents in Fort Myers, Florida. She has a job at Pet Supermarket and a boyfriend. She is talking about establishing residency and going to school there. Yes, as this was all unfolding I basically freaked out.

However, as it turns out, I'm a lot stronger than I thought and I'm living through it. This is by far the most difficult season of parenting so far.

I'm learning that it's not my life -- but I don't have to like or even support what she does with it. I feel I was gracious during Spring Break and I love her. But I don't have to watch as she pisses her life away. In a way, I'm glad she's far away so I don't have to be as much of a part of the mistakes she's making.

I'm just praying she doesn't do anything irreversible.

I guess this started out as an update and ended up a short rant. Parenting is so hard. And, regardless of what your children think, you're never really done with it.

Jesus, carry my little girl while she's far away and help me not alienate her. Amen.

History in the First Person

Well, the election is over and, even though Missouri and North Carolina are still "too close to call," it appears the people of the United States have smacked their foreheads into the history books and elected an African-American President!!

I'm thrilled with this, of course, and it's a great first step. Now the work begins in our country. Most of it will have nothing to do with Barack Obama. Let's take a long look at the smiling faces on the webpages today and carry them with us starting today. Joy and hope can be contagious and we will need them as our economy, most likely, worsens and soldiers continue to perish in Iraq and Afghanistan. No magic wand was waved last night at midnight so the problems still exist. The difference is, perhaps now we have a leader who can help us, as Keenan says on Saturday Night Live, "fix it!"

God bless Barack Obama, Joe Biden, John McCain, and yes, even Sarah Palin and their families today and grant them rest from their weary sojourn. And may God continue to bless America as we begin ours.

They still don't know him. ..

Barack Obama is the child of a black father and a white mother. As I sit here, NPR just finished an interview with David Axelrod wherein they played a recording of a voter in, I believe, Virginia who as much as admitted she believed that, if elected, Sen. Obama would look out for the interests of "his people." Um, does she know that she's actually ONE OF HIS PEOPLE???

I'm so tired of ignorance. People are just lazy. All the information is there. Readily available. But people choose to stay in the dark and cling to whatever ignorant ideas have gotten them to where they are -- and most people who are truly ignorant haven't gotten very far. . .I mean, I'm just sayin'.

Get a clue people! If you don't know something, look it up! Go to the library and get on the computer if you don't have one. Buy a newspaper! Again, the library has them FOR FREE!!

It's disgusting that we have the privilege of participating in the governance of our country but we don't take even the tiniest step to become truly informed so that we can make the best decision.

Now, more than ever, people need to know the REAL truth. Don't just listen to what they spout in the debates and commercials. . .LOOK IT UP!

'k.. . getting off my soapbox now.

Two-Party “System”??

Okay, here’s my frustration with politics in the good ole U.S. of A…

It’s stupid. How can anyone trust ONE group to meet all of their needs? Take me . . . and I don’t think I’m unique in this because I’m not unique in much of anything. .. I consider myself an “evangelical Christian,” but I’m not a “Republican.” Not the way I see it.

I like it when the government does things for me, like take care of some money for my retirement and, some fine day, my healthcare.

I pray to “end abortion,” but I don’t want to go back to criminalizing woman for having them.

I’m a student of history and, even though it’s been legal for most of my lifetime, I know that women were having them il-legally and DYING, along with their babies, for almost as long as we’ve been able to make babies. Do we really think that’s best?

I believe that the citizens of this country – with “Christians” first in line – should be:

1) Teaching their daughters about sex and its consequences; encouraging abstention but preparing for temptation,

2) Realistic about expectations for those women (young and not-so-young) who have “unwanted” pregnancies,

3) Providing support for those who seek abortions and don’t have them if they are talked out of it (especially by a Christian Organization) and,

4) Therapy for ALL who seek information and assistance.

It makes me so angry to think that people who call themselves Christians can think of no better way to get woman to NOT have abortions than picketing facilities while screaming at patients and, in extreme cases, blowing them up! Why not do something constructive and volunteer at a crisis pregnancy center. Hand out their business cards at the abortion clinic. PRAY in the parking lot. Don’t be confrontational and mean, be loving and gracious.

Okay, stepping down from my soapbox now.

As I was saying . . . I don’t want government bail-outs for every idiot who runs a company into the ground and I don’t think the taxpayers should foot the bill for people who spend more than they can afford on a mortgage OR the companies who let them do so. However, I’m not an economic or financial genius, as evidenced by our credit score and bank balances, so I’m willing to let someone smarter than I am to make decisions about it for the most part.

I don’t want a socialist society, per se, but I would like to see a fairer tax code and I believe that, in the wealthiest country on the planet, it’s a travesty to have children go hungry and homeless. Frankly, I’m angrier with the Christian community about the existence of all the hunger and need in our country than with the government. Jesus called us to give to and care for “the least of these.” Not hoard money and treasure for ourselves “where moths and rust . . . destroy.”

I want us out of Iraq. I want Osama bin Laden hunted down and brought to justice and he’s not in Iraq. Never was.

Finally, sort of, I don’t want someone LIKE me running the country. As forward-thinking as the founding fathers were, I’m not sure they ever envisioned what the US has become. It’s much bigger and much more complex than even those brilliant men could have anticipated. So, even though John Adams

and Thomas Jefferson

envisioned “every man” being able to be President, “every man” (or “woman”) is not who I want running this country. I’d like to see someone in charge that can RELATE to me . . . but definitely think it should be someone smarter than me. A lot smarter.

Which takes me back to the two-party question – what smart person really wants to be held to some broad guidelines thought up by party big wigs who are completely out of touch? I want someone who’s not beholden to anyone else for any reason and is going to do what’s best for the country regardless of what the party says.

Oh well, in a perfect world. . .

I'm not worthy. . .

I meet with my best good friend, Marty, on Thursday mornings (at least we’ve been doing so for about a month now and I’m LOVING it!). We’ve been meeting at Starbucks and just sort of catching up on our lives over the last week (or in the case of this morning, two weeks). This morning we got a little deeper in a couple of different ways and I want to write down and explore one in particular before I forget about it.

I am depressed. And I feel guilty about being depressed because I’m so very blessed. I know so many people, friends AND family, whose lives are SO hard. .. what's my problem?

Part of it is my job – as hard as I try to just say to myself, this job is paying me good money and I can get through it, I’m unfulfilled and disappointed in myself.

Part of it is – and this is where my talk with Marty comes in – I don’t feel worthy.

I hadn’t ever looked at it that way. Anyone who knows me will tell you I’m pretty arrogant. I’m smart and I have very little tolerance for anyone I think should be smart who isn’t acting like it. (Hence my disdain for McCain/Palin. . . but that’s another rant/post.) I'm sure I put off a very confident, if not disdainful, dare I say, elitist(?), vibe.

However, Marty and I share a history. Not that we grew up together or “knew each other when,” but in the sense that, like many young women, we suffered from an abysmal lack of self esteem as teens and young adults and we both tried the same things to fill the “God shaped hole” all humans have.

This morning, she mentioned that, despite what looks to outside eyes to be an exemplary life, a (seemingly) relatively easy life, Marty suffers from depression, too. Because we were "bad" as young women, we feel we don't deserve the life God has given us. We know we don't have to earn anything. That God's grace is unmerited by its very definition. That doesn't change the fact that, inside, we still feel the stain of our lives "before." We are both working hard to internalize the head knowledge but still. . .

What does this mean? Do I overeat to punish myself for being so blessed? Do I sabotage our finances in order to suffer and thereby earn the blessings God has seen fit to bestoy on me, on us?

Am I overstating/overanalyzing this? I don’t know.

What I do know is that I take a lot for granted and I need to stop it. All of it could end at any moment. We are, literally, one catastrophic illness or repair away from being homeless.

Sometimes I get it. Sometimes. At those times, I’m so grateful that I remember to take care of myself and love myself as Christ loves me. When I’m fit and at a good weight and feeling good about how I look, I’m, oddly enough, NOT depressed!

Perhaps, if I am proactive about my weight, the job will be easier to take. I don’t think I’ll ever LIKE it, but maybe my attitude will be better.

On the other hand, maybe not. But it’s certainly worth a try.

On an unrelated note, sort of, I got a comment on my previous post about my kids and Corey kindly added that they have “very special parents” . . . I would add that their parents have a loving God. One who, knowing how messed up Mom is, and loving Dad so much, gifted the two of them with fabulous offspring! I’m only half joking. . .

God bless you today and thanks for stopping by.

Noah's Prayer and other cool stuff about my kids

I'm about to describe a moment in my son's life that I'll want to remember because there won't be that many of them soon. . .he's 11 years old and not getting MORE sweet and innocent.

So, it was bedtime and I took a moment to lay down with Noah and listen to him talk about his day. I used to hold him in my arms when we did this but he's almost as tall as I am now and a bit too old for that. ..

In any event, he went on to tell me about three boys he goes to school with:

1) Dave, who fell asleep in Science class and didn't get in trouble for it even though the teacher looked right at him and he has a history with all the teachers of disruptive behavior. A boy in the same class "spoke out" to give an answer and DID get in trouble, ending up in the hallway for the remainder of the class. Noah's sense of justice was clearly tweaked.

2) Gabe, who is autistic and is disruptive but, apparently, brilliant, is being moved to Noah's Science class because they are apparently the best "role models" for Gabe. Noah has seen kids make fun of Gabe because of his in appropriate outbursts. I asked Noah if he ever said anything to them and he shrugged but seemed to internalize it.

3) Brandon. His mom was dying. Today we found out that she died.

I got all of this in a burst of fervent conversation. I got up to leave and he said he was going to pray. I asked if he wanted me to stay and he said I could. . .and here was the moment.

Noah prayed for Dave -- that his behavior would improve. For Gabe, that kids wouldn't make fun of him. And for Brandon's mom -- that she would get better but if she did die, that it wouldn't be painful.

I prayed for Noah, that he would be brave enough to be a role model to his friends.

And then tonight, Mary spoke to our GROW (Get Revived on Wednesday) class. We weren't there. . .but she was giving a testimony about an episode at camp over the summer when she definitely encountered some spiritual warfare.

I got the coolest note from the teacher/facilitator, Corey Nelson (www.cantankerouschristian.com) saying what a good job she did.

And Sara. . . well, she's committed. When she makes a promise, she keeps it. She helps with 2nd and 3rd grade at GROW and tonight was difficult. But she went.

I'm so proud of my children. They have their moments but today I'm extremely proud. And at the same time, humbled. They are great kids. . . and Tim and I have worked hard to be the best parents we can be but we were very young when we started and so we can't take all the credit. God has blessed us.

And for that I thank Him.

I'm Here

So, I'm getting my chance at redemption with Sara. Unfortunately, she's suffering so it's not very uplifting for me.

My sweet, beautiful child has suffered some with acne the last couple of years -- nothing monstrous but noticeable to a teen aged girl -- and we had often discussed taking her to a dermatologist but had opted to try over-the-counter remedies. Some worked for a while but, perhaps due to sporadic use over a prolonged period of time, all stopped.

Then, during band camp this summer, she developed blemishes on her chest, shoulders and inside her elbows. Blech. She could deal with it on her face, everyone gets it there but the other places were gross to her.

So to the dermatologist she went the week before Labor Day weekend and she got an entire set of regimens for her skin (different stuff for different areas) and an oral medicine that looks like it's in the tetracycline (spelling?) family from its name.

Her skin started to clear within the first few days and then she went to Cumberland -- and got a bad sunburn on her face, causing painful burning sensations for her and worry for me.

Of course, band practice goes on and she has gone from bad to worse with pain and now has developed small patches of chapping on her chin. I had her put Neosporin ointment on it last night before bed, thinking, it's medicine! Well, it had started to ooze a bit by this morning -- nothing gross or noticeable to the naked eye but awful for her and she was mortified by the time I dropped her at school.

It didn't help her that I had tried to go swimming at the Y this morning (getting up at 5 a.m.) and had missed getting into the pool by a hare's breadth, and worse, beaten by an 80-something, emaciated old man! I was in a foul temper when I got home from a quick stop at Kroger and she was still in bed, Tim was in the shower, Noah was IN LINE for the shower, I needed a shower and so did Sara! Grrrrrrrr.

So at 3 p.m. we return to the dermatologist's office. I am pretty much convinced that she needs to stop taking the medicine until after band season is over -- competitions are outdoors for the most part and ALL practices are. . . I just hope getting off of it will help. They have offered to give us sunscreen samples, etc. but I'm not sure I even want to try that. Sara already has "wounds" from this.

So today I redeem myself. And pray I can just continue to be available and not continue to need redemption. . .

Being There. . . but not with Peter Sellers

I never saw that movie.

What I'm talking about is something I brought up in a post last September. Being here for my kids as they try their wings.

Mary and Ethan broke up this summer. I should say, HE broke up with HER. This is the first time this has happened to her, as she usually does the breaking and she has been in pretty bad shape.

The rest of the Ham Fam is at Lake Cumberland this weekend with another family camping and boating. But Mary has to work today and tomorrow and, well, I needed to be here. She's been sad and not eating and conflicted and I didn't want to leave her alone. Sara was not happy about NOT staying home too but she kindly went. I am hoping and praying she understands that, when the time comes, I'll be here for her too. I'm also acutely aware of the ways in which I have NOT been here for her lately.

Which leads me to ask myself if I am ever truly here. I want to trust God enough to live each moment. Responding to my environment with only that moment in mind, nothing else.

This week, Sara called me from school and needed me to help her. I don't need to go into details but it was during my lunch hour, which, if you have read any of my other posts, is precious "me" time. I probably don't need to tell you I wasn't particularly nice to her on the phone, and, while I apologized when I got to school, the damage was done.

I tell my children they are my heart but when I respond in that way, can they really believe me? Do I really mean it when I say it?

So, I'm lifting up a prayer for this weekend and beyond but also for this moment. The I'll be in it.

New Haircut and other random stuff from the last couple of days. . .

Well, in my schizophrenic way, I have changed my hair. . . again.

It's my Grandma Bunger's fault, really. She was what we called when I was a kid, a "beautician." They're not called that anymore and I'm not quite sure why.

However, she also TAUGHT Beauty School. She was an instructor at Continental Beauty School in Dayton, Ohio. There was a DJ on local radio named Steve Kirk and we would listen to his show every morning for news and weather as we got ready for the day. My Grandma would stay with us a couple of days a week to help around the house (how lucky was my MOM -- who admits it openly) and most mornings we'd hear Steve Kirk say, "Stop on down to Continental Beauty School and ask for 'Big Red!'" That was my Grandma. She had a lot of different hair-dos, too, and colors, but mostly it was red.

Anyway, one of my earliest memories is of sitting on the fold-out stool in the kitchen of our house on Shiloh Springs Road (where now there is a Lowe's parking lot -- I loved that house, talk about "paved paradise". . .but I digress), and Grandma cutting my hair. I was very young, so she may have just been trimming it because pictures of me from that age show me with long-ish hair. But that didn't last long.

I was the guinea pig, the model, the "demo."

Early on I had a pixie. In fourth grade, before it was popular, I had a "shag." Everyone made fun of my hair but all the rich and popular kids came back from Christmas Break with hair cuts just like mine. Of course, that didn't make me "in." I already had the next haircut.

In sixth grade it was a "wedge." Just like Dorothy Hamill -- sort of. I was the guinea pig, remember, so it wasn't exactly right. However, again, a few short months after I broke ground with it, several of the more popular girls were sporting them.

I danced. From the age of five to my sophomore year in high school. All the other girls in ballet class had cute, tight buns. NO -- not butt buns, hair buns. It made me so sad that I didn't look like them. We'd have a recital or my mom would watch me in class and say, "Honey, your hair looks so pretty when you do turns with it cut like that." I don't recall whether I ever told her how much it hurt to not have hair like the other girls. Looking back, I'm sure it was cute. . .I'm just sayin'.

I must have asked to let my hair grow out at some point because I remember being told it was too thin. . . ask anyone who knows me or has had to wait for me to dry my hair. It's not thin now. It is my belief that, like all the other hair on my body, the more times I cut my hair, the thicker it gets. My hair is pretty thick.

Grandma is gone now. I miss her a lot and wish she could see the woman, wife and mother I have become and the family that carries her legacy of love to the next generation. I have a lot of stories about her because she was such a huge part of my life. I was so fortunate to have her and never really appreciated her. Sometimes I hated her just for being around. It makes me cry to think how often I could have just given her a hug but I snubbed her and ignored her. I'm ashamed of the way I treated her because she was such a treasure. She was our family's glue and since she's gone we see a lot less of each other. It's more of an effort now.

Again, I digress.

(Deep breath and sigh.) So, I was really tired of my scraggly hair. Having it cut a lot when I was young spoiled me for healthy hair. And FREE hair cuts. I nearly had a cardiac arrest in college when I finally had to PAY to get my hair cut and realized how much my Grandma had saved my mom and me over the years. I'm just glad my girls like their hair long. . .

I'm back and forth about continuing to color it -- I'm curious about just how much gray I actually have. But I can't stand to have a lot of frizz and dead ends so I called Ecotage (the salon I've been going to for a couple of years now) but my regular "stylist," Melanie, couldn't help me because she gets off early on Thursdays. Well, this was urgent. I felt like if I had to look at my hair in the mirror one more day I'd cut it myself. . .Heaven forbid!

So I called a salon closer to home: Alure. Used to be Planet Salon but for a while it's been Alure. Everyone says it's expensive and I guess it is compared to SuperCuts but it's comparable to Ecotage. I checked their website.

So I got an appointment with Jen and showed up at 5:15 p.m.

Okay, let's go back a step. You know that whole story I started with about being my Grandma's guinea pig? Well, I tell that EVERY TIME I go to a new stylist. My hair fickleness originates there but it never really stopped so I've had several different colors of hair (including a sort of dark-pumpkin-Lucille-Ball color that started out as a mistake, but became the butt of every joke told around me for months) and many lengths and styles (including an Annie Lennox phase in college). I am SO NOT afraid to get my hair cut on. I KNOW FOR A FACT it will grow back!

So, I tell my story about Grandma and how I've done all these things to my hair and I say, "I am not afraid. If I tell you short, I want SHORT." Then I say, "cut it" and they are ALWAYS timid! I'm 43 years old. I KNOW what I want my hair to look like -- at least in that moment. I've sort of resigned myself to it but, ever the cockeyed optimist, I try it every time anyway.

Which brings us to Jen at Alure. She listened. She said, "okay, we're gonna have fun with this!" And fun we had! My hair is SO cute! It hasn't been this short in forever but I love it! This is even more meaningful because it's been several days, I've washed and styled it myself, slept on it and it's now dirty -- and I STILL love it!

I'm not sure this has any purpose other than to say I'm glad I found Jen.

And I miss my Grandma.This sweet picture is from Christmas of 1993.
(Grandma Bunger (aka GG), Sara at one year old and wild-haired Mary at I-just-turned-four.

So, the title mentions "random stuff" and, when I started this novel of a post I was thinking of several things to write about but I don't want to make you sit staring at your computer screen much longer because I'm sure your boss or spouse is looking over your shoulder and you've been so engrossed in my story you didn't even notice. Suffice it to say, I'm blessed and I love my husband.

Arrogant Americans

So, I started writing this a couple of days ago and had to move on to something more pressing but I couldn't bring myself to delete it. . .

I can understand how we have such a bad reputation. I mean, where else do people ignore driving laws just because they have a bigger vehicle or no one's looking?

I know this seems random, but it's true. I had an incident over the summer with a woman driving an SUV -- I think it was a Toyota but that's not really important -- I was waiting my turn in a crowded parking lot and she tried to go around me. .. . where other cars were parked! I actually rolled my window down to ask what she thought she was doing and she said "what do YOU think YOU'RE doing?" It was just frustrating.

This afternoon, I was on my way back to the office from my local Kroger and came to a traffic light that truly has no purpose unless it's rush hour because it helps direct school traffic. Well, the light was red. . . and the guy stopped in front of me totally ran it. Less than a minute after he decided it was okay for him to just randomly break the law, it turned green.

How Cool Is This?

So, I'd finished typing the previous entry this morning and this devotion showed up in my Inbox:

August 20, 2008

I Want, I Need, God Wants Me to Have

Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth: "But godliness with contentment is great gain," (1 Timothy 6:6 NIV).

Mary Elizabeth was strolling down the cookie aisle at Wal-Mart with her three-year-old daughter, Sarah, who was riding comfortably in the "front seat" of the shopping buggy. Suddenly, Sarah spied a box of sugar cookies that were coated with pink icing and decorated with multi-colored sprinkles.

Her eyes brightened with enthusiasm as she put on her best cherub face. "Mommy, I want those cookies."

"Oh, Sarah," replied her mom, "we don't need any cookies today. We have plenty at home. Maybe another time."

Ten minutes later, as Mary Elizabeth passed through the checkout line, Sarah tried again. "Mommy, I need those cookies."

"No, Sarah, you don't need those cookies. We have plenty at home, and I'm not buying cookies today."

Finally, as they pulled out of the Wal-Mart parking lot, Sarah gave it one last try. "Mommy, I think God wants me to have those cookies."

I laughed as my friend told me her story. It was a nervous laugh because for just a moment, I saw myself riding through life in a shopping buggy, pointing at first one thing and then another whining, "I want...I need...God wants me to have."

Sarah had already learned our mechanism for justifying our whims. Whether it's sugar cookies with sprinkles on top or a new red convertible, given enough time we can justify our wants following that same progression. For Sarah, she went from I want to I need to God wants me to have in a matter of minutes. For us, it may take a little longer, but the tendency is still there.
However, God is very clear in His promise to supply everything we need which may be a far cry from everything we want.

Let's Pray

Dear Heavenly Father, forgive me when I act like a child and want more. Forgive me when I go from "I want" to "God wants me to have" in the blink of an eye. I know You desire me to have a thankful heart - a contented heart that wants only one thing...more of You. I say with the Psalmist, "The Lord is my Shepherd. I have everything I need." In Jesus' Name, Amen
Now It's Your TurnHave you ever justified your wants by saying that God wants you to have them?

Ouch! That hurts, doesn't it?

Ponder these two verses today:
"And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:19 NIV).

"His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness" (2 Peter 1:3 NIV).

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So, I guess I was getting the right message from my reading this morning. Further irony can be found in the fact that the mom in the devotional is "Mary Elizabeth" (my eldest child's FULL name) and the daughter is "Sarah" (misspelled but the name of my middle child - Sara). God is so good and it's so wild the lengths to which He will go to make a point!

My Heart's Desires

Today my daily Bible reading led me to this:

Delight yourself in the LORD
and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Psalm 37:4

I must have actually been listening this morning because I started really considering what the "desires of my heart" could be.

I thought about what is most important to me:

• Healthy, well-adjusted children
• A faithful, loving husband
• Income to provide food and shelter
• Opportunity to cultivate a deeper relationship with Christ
• Close friends with whom to share insights, but mostly just a laugh

I have all these things.

Why, then, am I so discontented? I feel I have just discovered how arrogant I am. I'm sure I'm not alone, and I complain about the sense of entitlement in our society, but I have it too! I'm so ANGRY that I got my college degree (which was really given to me since I screwed off so much in college) and now I don't have a job that's highly paid AND highly satisfying. I'm so ANGRY that God hasn't helped me find another position. In the meantime, I'm paid a good deal of money at a location that is beyond perfect (the center of my world -- 5-10 minutes from my home, kid's schools, my favorite grocery. . .need I go on?); I'm not closely supervised which allows me to do things at my own pace AND do a certain amount of personal business (including reading my Yahoo e-mail, Facebook-ing and writing in this blog occasionally). What the???

Who am I to be discontented? People a world away are DYING because they even say they love Jesus. People around the corner don't have a job or a home. My own brother has dysfunction in his family beyond anything I could imagine -- and he's not a bad guy and is a Christian. What makes me think I'm so special that I should have ALL those things listed above and still not have the "desires of my heart"??? I hadn't thought about it before but God really has given me those things because they ARE the desires of my heart. I have them!! Wow! I'm blessed beyond measure.

I just hope I can remember it when someone here at work gets on my last nerve or I mess up my work for the umpteenth time.

God be with me today and help me to remember how BLESSED I am (yeah, that word is SO over used!!) and those who are NOT!

Thanks for stopping by. K

What If?

I had a funny thought in the bathroom this morning while I was drying my hair. Somehow that song, "How Do I Know" (or whatever it's called) from Enchanted is stuck in my head even now (because I don't know all the words and can't finish singing it to myself. . . anyone feel my pain on this?) and I was seeing that scene in my head with Amy Adams and Patrick Dempsey running around in Central Park and I thought, "She'd have been up a creek if she'd run into a POOR guy first . . ."

I mean, really, what mechanic or fry cook at McDonald's is gonna be able to pay for that bouquet she picks out? Actually, I'd be interested to see that movie. How would that guy's girlfriend react and what "ball" would there be to attend? Think about it. . .

Passages

So we spent last weekend with Tim's parents at Dale Hollow Lake. When I say "we," I mean me, Tim, Sara and Noah. Again, we were in a "missing (wo)man formation" without Mary. There's a serious hole in me when she's not along. I wonder if I'll ever get over that and what it will be like when there are three. . .

In any event, as I've mentioned before, vacations for the Hamiltons have been spent with my In-laws for, well, ever. Since before Tim and I were Mr. and Mrs. Hamilton.

They never will be again. At least not in the same way. Bob and Janet have decided to sell their boat and had actually talked to a guy (who incidentally lives in Mason, Ohio where THEY live) during the time they'd been there the week before. So, not knowing this, we left Mary in Kentucky. As if she needed any MORE drama in her life. ..

This turn of events is bittersweet in that vacations will never be the same. But on the other hand, vacations NEED never be the same! Tim's brother, Tony, has already suggested we rent a boat together and Tim's folks have given us their gear: skiis, life jackets, etc. This might be fun, but a whole world of opportunities is opening to us and that, in a weird way, is exciting.

Perhaps we'll return to Disney World before Mary leaves the nest. A cruise for the whole family? Why not? Of course, that's the fly in this ointment... we have vacationed for a pittance for 25 years. .. .now we'll have to pay, and dearly I'm sure, for our summer fun.

Oh well, I'm looking forward to putting our collective heads together and coming up with something new.

Real Girl

On July 14, I become a permanent employee of Uranium Disposition Services (UDS). This is a good thing because I will be able to receive the associated "benefits" -- such as paid time off. Do I really want to be a "permanent" employee? Not so much. I am, even now, awaiting word from Stites & Harbison about a second interview for a Legal Assistant position they have open.

I have applied for Events Coordinator position with Special Olympics Kentucky.

and the list goes on. . .

However, I am slowly learning that I'm not my job. Am I fulfilled by my job at UDS? Nah. Can I stay there until Steve retires August 1? Sure. And beyond? Yep. Do I want to be there a year from now? Um, no. But I've learned I can't hang without vacation days. . . duh.

So, in other news. We're on our annual pilgrimage to McMinnville, TN to visit my cousin, Dawn, and her clan of dogs and children (see link on my home page for her website -- she takes awesome pics). It's great -- instant party. But Mary's not with us this year so it seems strange and I'm a little sad. That's not the only reason I'm sad but that's part of it.

I really need a new job -- wait, that's backtracking. It's just that I've gained like 20 lbs since I've been at UDS and I'm not motivated to exercise or anything.

Okay -- I'm going to visit with my family now.

Why didn't I get my Masters???

I don't know what it is about me and crappy jobs. . . or "grass is greener" mentality. I have been saying for months that leaving KET was the stupidest thing I've ever done. . . and I couldn't have been more right as of today.

I've been trying to be so good. Taking vitamins so I won't get sick. Trying to assimilate all the complicated instructions about my job. I don't do much but what I am responsible for is very complicated. Did I say I'm 43 years old?

So today, I e-mail my timecard to the temp agency and get an e-mail back confirming receipt of it. And a request that I call when I can talk. DUN DUN DUN. . . (ominous background music)

I am told I have "attendance problems." What the??? I had a litany of answers to this but what it boils down to is that I asked off for days to which I was ALREADY COMMITTED. And my boss and the HR manager both signed off on them. . . problem is, neither one of them is in the office right now (or for the foreseeable future because rumors are flying fast and furious but no one seems to know the truth about where they are or why they aren't working). So I'm a temp in a highly polarized, negative working environment -- stuck in the middle of what makes it negative -- who is now seen as some sort of slacker.

I'm so sad and I feel very alone. I thought the temporary agency would be my advocate. Instead, they have taken their "client's" side. . . whoever it is that's complaining about me (I was told that particular piece of information was not my business).

I'm trying hard not to totally despair but it's not easy. I want to be grateful I have a job but then I think "life is TOO SHORT" .... I don't want to be like the people I work with who are there 60 hours a week. There are more important things to me.

I'm so insulted and hurt. Affronted. Nauseated. Scared.

God, just help me get through one more day. Then we'll discuss Wednesday.